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Pacaran Jarak jauh....
- Pembuat thread awal. coolguyz
- Tanggal Mulai
fantasi
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agak susah loh kalo pacaran jarak jauh katanya... dikid2 curiga ... dia lagi ngapain ya? jangan2 selingkuh !! haha.. kayak temen ku tuh ada... pcran jarak jauh tapi ga nyampe brp lama udah ptus ... /wah /wah
tapi kalo mau awet ya saling percaya aja !!
tapi kalo mau awet ya saling percaya aja !!
Nathan Davis
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mmm..
depends on individual si y..
g pnah bdg-jkt si.
tp asli.
jarang ketemunya mampus"n.
yg satu sibuk ngeband yg satu skul mau ujian akhir..
semoga saja memang dia org baik".
dan yah..
emang g am pcr klop aj si.
jd males nyari yg lain jg..
kt sampe 1th 7 bulan wkt tu.
pts soale g liat masa depan kt bdua ga cerah kalo dilanjutin bareng.
ada konflik intern personal lah.
yg bikin kt jd kurang asik satu sama laen..
yg penting emang trust si.
dan komunikasi yg optimal.
maturity jg diuji bgt dalem LDR..
ga bole gampang curiga, sewot palagi marah" gjl.
duh.
malah curhat d g.
ehee..
depends on individual si y..
g pnah bdg-jkt si.
tp asli.
jarang ketemunya mampus"n.
yg satu sibuk ngeband yg satu skul mau ujian akhir..
semoga saja memang dia org baik".
dan yah..
emang g am pcr klop aj si.
jd males nyari yg lain jg..
kt sampe 1th 7 bulan wkt tu.
pts soale g liat masa depan kt bdua ga cerah kalo dilanjutin bareng.
ada konflik intern personal lah.
yg bikin kt jd kurang asik satu sama laen..
yg penting emang trust si.
dan komunikasi yg optimal.
maturity jg diuji bgt dalem LDR..
ga bole gampang curiga, sewot palagi marah" gjl.
duh.
malah curhat d g.
ehee..
aerogroove
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bisa aja sih pacaran jarak jauh...
tapi mesti ada yg dipegang HARUS PERCAYA MA SETIA
tapi mesti ada yg dipegang HARUS PERCAYA MA SETIA
bocahceria
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pacarann jarrak jauuh?? hayyoo!!
w jugga pacaran jarakk jauh .
w dii depok . co w dii cikampekk .
tapii w ma diia udahh mpirr 7 tahhun .
hhahah .
sempet siih waktu ituuh . bisaa dibilang HTSan .
coz kiita lost contact . dyya jadi jarang telp n smsan gitu .
udahh gitu w ketemu dia paleng banter setahun sekali .
hhuuh .
nyikssa siih tapi .
w yakkin . apapun yang kita jalanii dengan serius dan penuh kepercayaan .
pastii bakal jadii inidah akhirnyya .
x
sampe sekarrang . setiiap malem dya nelp w.
atoo w yyang nelp dyyya .
hahahaha .![:)]](/images/smilies/ym/100.gif "On The Phone :)]")
*stiil patient .
just believe him .
Sesuai dengan judul diatas...
Kalau pacaran jarak jauh enak gak sih??
Trus gmana caranya biar bisa awet??
Mari kita share pengalaman kita
w jugga pacaran jarakk jauh .
w dii depok . co w dii cikampekk .
tapii w ma diia udahh mpirr 7 tahhun .
hhahah .
sempet siih waktu ituuh . bisaa dibilang HTSan .
coz kiita lost contact . dyya jadi jarang telp n smsan gitu .
udahh gitu w ketemu dia paleng banter setahun sekali .
hhuuh .
nyikssa siih tapi .
w yakkin . apapun yang kita jalanii dengan serius dan penuh kepercayaan .
pastii bakal jadii inidah akhirnyya .
xsampe sekarrang . setiiap malem dya nelp w.
atoo w yyang nelp dyyya .
hahahaha .
*stiil patient .
just believe him .
shilphid
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sebenernya sih ngga jadi masalah
asal saling percaya aja..
temen wa pernah bilang : "KECURIGAAN ADALAH BENIH PERSELINGKUHAN"
kalo kita tidak dipercaya, ngapain juga kita setia
begitu katanya.. hehehe..
tapi hubungan ini ga berhasil buat wa..
dia meninggal karna kangker otak 4 taun yang lalu..
dan yang buat wa sedih banget..
karna ni hub jarak jauh,
wa baru terima kabar 4 hari setelah dia meninggal
ngelilat dia terakhir kali aja ga sempet..
hiks.. jadi sedih wa kalo inget..
wa nangis dulu ah..
hehehe.. gak ding..
wa dah janji ga nangisin kepergiannya kok
wa pengen ngelanjutin hidup wa dengan tersenyum
sambil mengenang dia..
Mia (lengkapnya sih Jumiati..)
istirahat dengan tenang di sana ya..
wa nyusulnya ntar aja..
masa nyusul kesana wa masi bujang ..
ntar lo ketawain lage.. hehehe..
asal saling percaya aja..
temen wa pernah bilang : "KECURIGAAN ADALAH BENIH PERSELINGKUHAN"
kalo kita tidak dipercaya, ngapain juga kita setia
begitu katanya.. hehehe..
tapi hubungan ini ga berhasil buat wa..
dia meninggal karna kangker otak 4 taun yang lalu..
dan yang buat wa sedih banget..
karna ni hub jarak jauh,
wa baru terima kabar 4 hari setelah dia meninggal
ngelilat dia terakhir kali aja ga sempet..
hiks.. jadi sedih wa kalo inget..
wa nangis dulu ah..
hehehe.. gak ding..
wa dah janji ga nangisin kepergiannya kok
wa pengen ngelanjutin hidup wa dengan tersenyum
sambil mengenang dia..
Mia (lengkapnya sih Jumiati..)
istirahat dengan tenang di sana ya..
wa nyusulnya ntar aja..
masa nyusul kesana wa masi bujang ..
ntar lo ketawain lage.. hehehe..
Nathan Davis
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^
^
jah..
sedih amad om...
^
jah..
sedih amad om...
La-Li-Lu-Le-Lo
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It will not work at all
marcedes
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memang harus percaya...tapi kepercayaan itu muncul dari mana kalau dari kelakuan-kelakuan nya setiap hari.....dari sana dah bisa di ambil pendapat apa bisa di percaya apa tidak....
dan lagi jgn terlalu percaya...bisa-bisa rugi sendiri....kadang negatif thinking ada bagus nya untuk menyimpulkan hal-hal buruk yang mungkin terjadi..so antisipasi nya.
Sekar Alit
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Gue gak percaya bro... Long Distance Relationshiop TIDAK dapat berhasil, kecuali cinta jarak jauh tsb memiliki keintiman secara emosional & bukan fear intimacy. Secara umum, keintiman emosi dapat tercipta bila masing2 pihak bisa saling support, saling trust, zero kebohongan, berdiskusi mengenai hal apapun tanpa rasa takut.
Sedikit saja salah satunya berbohong, sedikit saja salah satunya menduga kalau pasangannya berselingkuh itu artinya sudah tercipta distance emotional.
Artikel ini mungkin bisa membantu.
Fear of Intimacy
Author: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen
Published: Dec 3, 2006
Is your relationship hampered by emotional walls & barriers, secrets & long silences? Fear of intimacy is common in adults, especially if you've been scarred in the past.
Fear of intimacy is the exact opposite of the close relationship you had with your best friend when you were a kid. You may be lucky enough to have a best friend now, but the depth and scope of those childhood friendships may seem unbeatable because you shared all your secrets. Fear of intimacy -- hiding behind emotional walls and barriers -- wasn't usually an issue. Overcoming fear of intimacy and anxiety wasn't even on the radar screen.
Fear of intimacy is definitely a grown up problem.
Fear of intimacy involves the reluctance to open up and reveal your true self, perhaps because you've been hurt in the past. Or, if you grew up in an emotionally and socially closed environment and never learned how to be vulnerable to either friends or lovers, you may have a hard time opening up now. This is fear of intimacy. We've all been betrayed and hurt by loved ones in big and small ways – a thousand tiny betrayals. Regardless of the pain was accidentally or deliberately caused, we’re naturally reluctant to open ourselves up again. Not wanting to get hurt can lead to an extreme fear of intimacy.
Personality characteristics such as introversion and extroversion can also contribute to fear of intimacy issues, and so can depression and anxiety.
Fear of intimacy is different than fear of commitment. You can be married and not know your partner emotionally, intellectually, or spiritually. In fact, loneliness in marriage is more difficult than being lonely as a single person or widow. Marital loneliness springs from fear of intimacy in one or both partners.
The strongest foundation of an intimate partnership is a good friendship. Whether you're friends or lovers (or both) there are three elements of a strong, healthy relationship: authenticity, communication, and honesty. These three elements can lower fear of intimacy.
Three elements that reduce fear of intimacy:
1. Authenticity: your feelings match your words and actions. If you feel angry or betrayed, you express yourself with words and behavior (remember that 90% of communication is nonverbal, which means that even if you don’t speak your feelings, your actions will likely reveal them). Try sentences such as "I feel sad because I hoped to see you there," or "I'm angry and frustrated because I was relying on you to take the garbage out, and now the garbage truck won't be back for another week." Instead of hiding behind fear of intimacy, step out and reveal yourself. You'll feel vulnerable and afraid - there's no getting around that!
2. Communication: Mutual self-disclosure occurs when the two of you share your personal and everyday experiences. You open up at the same level; for instance, you both discuss experiences of being betrayed in the past – or neither of you shares it. You meet each other at the same level in terms of the amount and type of personal experiences and thoughts you disclose. If mutual self-disclosure doesn’t happen, then you’re in an unbalanced relationship. One partner has opened their heart, while the other has hidden it away. This is fear of intimacy that can be reduced simply by talking about it.
3. Honesty: You talk about what's going on in your life, how you really feel and what you really think. You reveal what’s important to you, which builds trust in your relationship. You don’t play games, such as expecting your partner to read your mind or dropping hints instead of saying what you really mean. You may still have a fear of intimacy, but you're honest about it.
The longer fear of intimacy festers, the worse it gets - and the more difficult it is to overcome. Now's the time to face your fear of intimacy and embark on a bigger, deeper life!
Sedikit saja salah satunya berbohong, sedikit saja salah satunya menduga kalau pasangannya berselingkuh itu artinya sudah tercipta distance emotional.
Artikel ini mungkin bisa membantu.
Fear of Intimacy
Author: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen
Published: Dec 3, 2006
Is your relationship hampered by emotional walls & barriers, secrets & long silences? Fear of intimacy is common in adults, especially if you've been scarred in the past.
Fear of intimacy is the exact opposite of the close relationship you had with your best friend when you were a kid. You may be lucky enough to have a best friend now, but the depth and scope of those childhood friendships may seem unbeatable because you shared all your secrets. Fear of intimacy -- hiding behind emotional walls and barriers -- wasn't usually an issue. Overcoming fear of intimacy and anxiety wasn't even on the radar screen.
Fear of intimacy is definitely a grown up problem.
Fear of intimacy involves the reluctance to open up and reveal your true self, perhaps because you've been hurt in the past. Or, if you grew up in an emotionally and socially closed environment and never learned how to be vulnerable to either friends or lovers, you may have a hard time opening up now. This is fear of intimacy. We've all been betrayed and hurt by loved ones in big and small ways – a thousand tiny betrayals. Regardless of the pain was accidentally or deliberately caused, we’re naturally reluctant to open ourselves up again. Not wanting to get hurt can lead to an extreme fear of intimacy.
Personality characteristics such as introversion and extroversion can also contribute to fear of intimacy issues, and so can depression and anxiety.
Fear of intimacy is different than fear of commitment. You can be married and not know your partner emotionally, intellectually, or spiritually. In fact, loneliness in marriage is more difficult than being lonely as a single person or widow. Marital loneliness springs from fear of intimacy in one or both partners.
The strongest foundation of an intimate partnership is a good friendship. Whether you're friends or lovers (or both) there are three elements of a strong, healthy relationship: authenticity, communication, and honesty. These three elements can lower fear of intimacy.
Three elements that reduce fear of intimacy:
1. Authenticity: your feelings match your words and actions. If you feel angry or betrayed, you express yourself with words and behavior (remember that 90% of communication is nonverbal, which means that even if you don’t speak your feelings, your actions will likely reveal them). Try sentences such as "I feel sad because I hoped to see you there," or "I'm angry and frustrated because I was relying on you to take the garbage out, and now the garbage truck won't be back for another week." Instead of hiding behind fear of intimacy, step out and reveal yourself. You'll feel vulnerable and afraid - there's no getting around that!
2. Communication: Mutual self-disclosure occurs when the two of you share your personal and everyday experiences. You open up at the same level; for instance, you both discuss experiences of being betrayed in the past – or neither of you shares it. You meet each other at the same level in terms of the amount and type of personal experiences and thoughts you disclose. If mutual self-disclosure doesn’t happen, then you’re in an unbalanced relationship. One partner has opened their heart, while the other has hidden it away. This is fear of intimacy that can be reduced simply by talking about it.
3. Honesty: You talk about what's going on in your life, how you really feel and what you really think. You reveal what’s important to you, which builds trust in your relationship. You don’t play games, such as expecting your partner to read your mind or dropping hints instead of saying what you really mean. You may still have a fear of intimacy, but you're honest about it.
The longer fear of intimacy festers, the worse it gets - and the more difficult it is to overcome. Now's the time to face your fear of intimacy and embark on a bigger, deeper life!
Hell Angel
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mnding ga usah deh om..
cari yg deket2 aje, jgn kyk gw wkakaka..
cari yg deket2 aje, jgn kyk gw wkakaka..
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